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Nancy Friday _ Men in Love: Men's Sexual
Forever after men sense the forbidding shadow of the primitive, preoedipal mother behind every woman to whom they are attracted. To escape this {..} they are usually attracted to women younger than they.
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Nancy Friday _ My Mother/My Self: The
Nancy, you know I'm not really good at this mothering business," she says. "You're a lovely child, the fault is not with you. But motherhood doesn't come easily to me. So when I don't seem like other people's mothers, try to understand that it isn't because I don't love you. I do. But I'm confused myself. There are some things I know about. I'll teach them to you. The other stuff– sex, love and all that – well, I just can't discuss them with you because I'm not sure where they fit into my own life. We'll try to find other people, other women who can talk to you and fill the gaps. You can't expect me to be all the mother you need. I feel closer to your age in some ways than I do my mother's. I don't feel that serene, divine, earth-mother certainty that you're supposed to that she felt. I am unsure how to raise you. But you are intelligent, and so am I. Your aunt loves you, your teachers already feel the need in you. With their help, with what I can give, we'll see that you get the whole mother package-all the love in the world. It's just that you can't expect to get it all from me.
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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
Freud called the first stage of life "polymorphous perverse." At birth infants are so undifferentiated that they have the capacity to receive erotic stimulation at every aperture of the body and any area of skin: from either or both sexes; from animals, food, objects, colors, currents of air, gradations of temperature. As we grow older, become socialized, and develop identity, the satisfactions we pursue become more specific.
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Nancy Friday _ My Mother/My Self: The
The primary rule is always that a mother can't go wrong, ever, by encouraging her child after age one and a half to be as individuated and separated as possible. If she was not as good a mother before as she would like to have been, she must get over her guilty desires to overcompensate, and place herself on the side of the child's developing
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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
The image of women making love to women grips the male imagination because it expresses one of the dominant themes of male fantasy: the sexually insatiable woman. Women who masturbate, who make love to other women, {..} who not only initiate sexual action but overpower the man {..} release the man from his earliest inhibitions. He need no longer fear making his proposition, need not fear he may not perform well: The sexually enflamed woman in this myth is so close to orgasm right from the start that nothing is going to hold her back.
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Nancy Friday _ My Secret Garden
Rape does for a woman's sexual fantasy what the first martini does for her in reality: both relieve her of responsibility and guilt.
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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
Voyeurism is a general term for people who get sensual satisfaction from looking, often with the knowledge, consent, and even full participation of the sexual object. {..} the eye is one of the organs of love. {..} Voyeuristic fantasies reverse the woman's power, it passes from her to the eye of the man. By keeping himself hidden or invisible, the voyeur imposes his will on the woman. She has lost her ability to say no; has been unknowingly frozen into the position of an indulgent mother who allows the boy everything he wants. {..} Wanting to see, but afraid to look, men invent voyeuristic fantasies to heal a paradox, the conflict in themselves.
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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
The Freudian fetishist is defined by the fact that his desire is not primarily for the woman. {..} fetish is a "transitional object" – helping the toddler bridge his fear and loneliness. Having this unconsciously remembered evidence of mother's warmth and reassurance with him, he is encouraged to go forward into sexual pleasures. {..} Another fascinating aspect of fetishistic thinking is the extraordinary amount of detail connected to the object. The fetish is lovingly described, lingeringly examined.
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Nancy Friday _ Women on Top
When the Wicked Queen calls for Snow White's heart, because her mir- ror has informed her that she has been outstripped in beauty, the fairy tale warns little girls, even today, that there is danger in beauty. Fairy tales carry the wisdom of the ages; that is why they last and are passed down from generation to generation. So long as the most beautiful woman got the most powerful man and men were women's only source of power, the role of beauty was too crucial to be discussed. It is only since women have de- veloped alternative sources of economic security and identity that the taboo subject of the power of their beauty has begun to be researched and written about.
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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
A woman cannot give a man his sense of maleness. He can desire her, but not identify with her. At best, she can give him a negative identification: This can be very thrilling, but still leaves him deprived of an object of positive identification. {..} other men are brought in to fill the void. They provide contact with an element the inventor, consciously or not, knows he needs to assert himself as fully male. {..} By joining in their sexual games, the woman grants absolution and permission. It isn't so much that these men use women to get to other men as that they need the woman to help break through the guilt barrier that blocks them from their about other men.
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Nancy Friday _ My Mother/My Self: The
Our feelings about menstruation are the image of what it is to be a woman in this culture. While menstruation and the fear of revealing evidence of loss of body control bear possibilities of humiliation for women of which men are not aware, it is humiliating too to be that sex whose voice and presence carry less significance. It is humiliating to speak the same words as a man and have his heard, and not yours. It is humiliating to feel invisible when God gave you a body as solid as his. It is humiliating that women are accorded little dignity unless they are married. We twist these humiliations around, of course, and say it is glorious to have a man fight our battles for us, put us on a pedestal, take care of us. It is, if you enjoy being dependent on someone else.
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Nancy Friday _ My Secret Garden: Women's
Do women dress for men or women? I've always wondered why that eternally provocative question is put in terms of approval - as if the heart of the matter, the answer, were indeed a question of approval by either sex. But the question is never satisfactorily answered because it is incorrectly posed. It's disapproval, the fear of it, that motivates most women, and with disapproval it doesn't matter where it comes from.
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